But there are things you can do to make it easier -- for both of you. Also, think twice before texting or emailing her after the date, tempting as it may be. Worst case, if you can’t see her face to face, just call.
“That way you’re letting her know how you feel and also considering her,” says Geraldine K. If she doesn’t like your suggestion, throw out a different one. “Use basic manners: If it’s cold out, give her your jacket.” If you're feeling nervous, don't sweat it. But be careful not to put too much pressure on her or the relationship. “On these romantic comedies, love is all about infatuation and feelings,” Kalish says. It’s about caring and growing.” You need to give her and yourself room to grow as individuals, Piorkowski says. Spend time with her, but also spend time with your guy friends. “They tend to lash out.” It’s OK to go home and cry. (Kalish says her research shows that 90% of the time, the parents cause the breakup.) Besides, if you really like her, you don’t want to ruin the chances that you might get back together someday.
Pick an activity where you won’t have to talk the entire time, like a movie or a sporting event, Kalish says. “The longer you go,” Kalish says, “the more problems you run into.” It should be a no-brainer to avoid thumbing your smartphone during the date. You miss out on the body language and facial cues that will give you a better idea of how she really feels.
If you’re not a talker, think up a list of possible topics -- TV shows, music, school -- before the date, Piorkowski says. “With texting and email, all you get is words,” Piorkowski says.
It's exactly what guys mean when they say, "Confidence is sexy."6. " Slip it into their pocket — it's a million times cuter than a text.22. Text, "You should wear that blue shirt tonight — it makes your eyes look amazing :)"23. Here's how: The first time a new crush texts you, write back, "Who is this? Go in for a kiss at the end of the night — but then turn your head and whisper you had a nice time instead.26. It will take them by surprise and make them smile.28. When you notice someone checking you out, let them know you're onto them and you'll ooze confidence. Change the wallpaper on their phone to one of the cheesiest preset pictures — the sillier the better.
“She can’t take the place of what’s important for you.” When you're with her, live in the moment. That’s a great reputation to have if you want to date other girls in the same school.
And we want to guard and protect your hearts (like that creepy Kasey guy on The Guy Who Claims To Have Forgotten His Phone All Night: If he ignores your calls and texts all night, but invites you over once he gets home, drop him.
Come on, it's 2010 — people pretty much take their phones into the bathroom with them while they shower (and poop)!
Maybe the love of your life has turned mean and selfish. “If a boyfriend doesn’t give you what you need, walk away,” says Danielle Greaves, MSW, who works with girls at The Guidance Center in Cambridge, Mass.
She tells girls all the time, “It hurts now, but you can get through this.” Dating Tip 4: Talk About Facebook Before You Talk on Facebook Social media puts the ups and downs of dating out there for everyone to see.