Naturally you begin to wonder why he stopped calling, and you may initially go into a slight panic thinking something terrible has happened.But then you find out that nothing’s wrong, and with this newly discovered information, you now have an instant attitude or you start to think maybe something went wrong in your interactions that you didn’t notice.He seemed interested, attentive and pretty fabulous on paper. When they met in real life, he complimented her generously, told her he felt so lucky to have met her, and talked about doing lots of things together. He had long story for why each time and professed his interest and desire to be with her again. By the time Sue and I connected, this entire story had transpired. You know: rumination hell, where we gals can’t help but go. Sue was emotionally drained, and her dating confidence was in the dumps. And then those words I hate to hear started coming: Why does this always happen? Not only did Sue lose three weeks of potential fun dates, but she burned herself out and brought herself to the verge of giving up on finding love…all over a guy she never knew.
Sometimes this reaction is bad, like when he stops calling you because he is scared to commit.
Wondering why this sort of thing happens (and it happens to all of us) is often just a cover for feeling sorry for yourself. There is more than enough pain in the world waiting for you without you having to contribute more.
You are perhaps wondering if you are somehow not worthy of this person. Also, when someone doesn’t call you back, that is more a statement about them than about you.
Having dropped a few numbers myself in the past, and speaking with men out there dating today – I will present you with the real reasons why you never got a call back from that guy: Women consider it a perfect date because I paid and sat there smiling while they offended me and/or bored me to death with their conversation.
If there is a personality clash I won’t call and she may not even know it.