I’m amazed at how many of them fall for the psycho Bs and drama queens.My last (short-term – I can’t find one healthy enough to become long term!I thought that women felt attracted to men for the same reasons that we feel attracted to women. I didn’t realize that it was possible to make beautiful women feel attracted to me for reasons OTHER than looks, so if they rejected me, I simply assumed, That’s all I knew because I was another brainwashed modern man who believed the junk I saw in TV and magazine advertisements.Even though I saw below-average looking guys with beautiful women, I didn’t see that as real.
Bryony Gordon’s affectionate profile made it look like a happy marriage with no illusions on the bride’s behalf. When she had perhaps drunk a glass of wine too many one evening some years ago, she did admit that she feared being a widow at 60; but it is also true that, before we married, she called me “the nicest boyfriend I have ever had” and, within living memory, she said that she wouldn’t swap me for Brad Pitt. And that is even without my having the obvious, overwhelming attractions of that shrivelled, wizened midget Ronnie Wood.Nevertheless, I do know from personal experience that money can exert an attraction for some women.The only time in my life I was ever left by a woman for an older man, I did suspect that his possession of many millions of pounds, houses and flats and a big yacht might have had some bearing on the decision.I saw that as the woman making a mistake or being stupid enough to fall for a guy like that.I didn’t know that she could actually feel attracted to him for OTHER reasons.A number of them want younger women (never mind that I look much younger) – didn’t anyone tell these guys that women hit their sexual prime over 40:-)?I’m besieged by the 50 set even though our lives are completely different (like my kids are young and theirs are grown and they don’t want anymore).) boyfriend told me I was the first mentally healthy woman he dated in 3 years.But although I had everything he wanted in a woman, he didn’t feel any “chemistry” for me – so he went back to a younger woman who had serious enough issues that she lost custody of her kids.They may go on to date women their own age, or to move to different places, but we stay friends. And then every so often, their relationships end, and they return to me. When lots of stamina (and blissfully short recovery periods) meets confidence and experience, it’s a terrific combination.Some women tell me they’d feel too insecure about their bodies to sleep with someone young, but when you operate on the criterion I do — that they have to be nice — you meet younger men who appreciate everything about older women.