Before diving into a relationship, find out if your prospective partner is actively using drugs or alcohol, or if they display addictive or compulsive patterns in other areas (e.g., gambling, work, sex, food or spending).
If you care about someone in active addiction, help them into treatment and hold off on turning a friendship into more until they’re grounded in their recovery.
But before you put yourself in a position to fall for an addict, there are a few things you need to know: For anyone considering dating an active addict, it is important to realize that love cannot conquer addiction.
Addiction takes priority over everything – you, children, career, financial security, even one’s own freedom.
The drugs often have no color, smell, or taste, so you can't tell if you are being drugged.
The drugs can make you become weak and confused -- or even pass out -- so that you are unable to refuse sex or defend yourself.
And the people on the receiving end of that abuse are more likely to turn to drugs and alcohol to cope with the depression and anxiety that result from being victimized.
This guideline is designed to protect the addict as well as the people they might date.
Drugs and alcohol make it harder to keep your emotions in check and to make the right choices.
They also make it easier to act impulsively without thinking through the consequences.
It happens when one person intentionally hurts the other—or when they both do it to each other. And it has real consequences for a person’s health, today and in the future.
Dating violence can be emotional, physical, and/or sexual, and it also includes stalking. Abusive relationships don’t always start out that way.