A woman of deep faith, her family and friends have been helping her establish new routines and traditions.She’s also been chronicling some of her journey in a blog that’s co-authored with two girlfriends.Many grieving men throw themselves into their work in an attempt to distract themselves from their painful feelings. Let him know that you really want to hear how he's doing, how he's feeling.Maybe you can offer your friend both activity and time for reflection. In the context of these activities he just might share some of his innermost thoughts.You can help by offering a "safe place" for your friend to mourn. Around you, he doesn't have to be strong because you will offer support without judgment.
I’d like to share a poignant reflection from Holly in the space below.
How long does a widow/widower typically wait to start dating again? I was lonely for several years before my husband died.
I would have been dating again within a year if I had not been in a car accident that put me out of action for 9 months.
It is very much in vogue today to encourage men to openly express their feelings, but in practice few men do so.
Even in the face of tragic loss, many men in our society still feel the need to be self-contained, stoic and to express little or no outward emotion.