And when the sex part gets between two hella good friends, it can go either way: super awkward or super awesome (as nakedness often goes down).’ Start talking more seriously that you are looking for a relationship in general.You can also ask her about her dating life and openly talk about your own.Just be sure to keep the conversation light (otherwise you risk become her “therapist”) and positive (i.e. Talking about your dating life and how none of the girls you’ve met have measured up can then be your segue to expressing your desire to date her.Even if you meet someone to whom you think you have no previous connection, a 10-minute conversation almost always reveals that she went to high school with your college roommate, used to be on a volleyball team with that girl from your book club, and had a six-month stand with your favorite barista.Queers don't tend to expect our dates to come into our lives completely free of prior complication.I've found that the only real distinction between friend and boyfriend is the attraction factor.
It sucks, but it’s better to know as soon as possible so you can move forward.Then later, as some times goes by, suddenly, you begin to notice all these fantastic qualities about them that you didn't know existed, and boom! You're looking for your friend to get ahead by looking out for his best interest. Some people are on their best behavior until they cross the threshold. But your true nature will surface when you're a person's friend first.When you're true friends from the beginning, you don't have to pretend." I don't disagree with anything Cornish says, but why does she make it seem like honesty, kindness and respect are only inherent in friendships, not in romance?This rule is almost never stated or enforced among queer communities.If you're gay, you will almost inevitably date a friend's ex at some point.What you want is to get the girl to see you as a sexual being with your own wants and desires. By sprinkling in comments about sex and dating into your conversation.Using sexual innuendo for example, will bring sex into the conversation in a fun, playful way.Jealousy and possessiveness occur in all relationships- including friendships.I've been envious of new friends that supplant old friendships.And if he’s the type of guy who doesn’t date much or talk openly about his dating life, she may not see you as being particularly interested in dating women at all.If that’s the case an important step when looking at how to start dating a friend is getting the girl to see you in a different light.