' without first answering it for themselves — it's not fair to him and it doesn't lead anywhere." Think about the connection you crave. But if he's never made a date with you beyond next Saturday or is secretive about how he spends his time when you're apart, you'll probably have an easier job parting the Red Sea.
If you say it at the wrong time, it can destroy any chance of a future relationship – but the same thing can happen if you wait too long. Well, a recent study done by both Zoosk and revealed something a little bit surprising about when to make things official.Think: He went out without you on Saturday (no biggie, you're not officially dating, right? Here are three tips to keep in mind when navigating the "How About Us? ) and fills you in the next morning on the woman who blatantly hit on him on the dance floor. I liked her, but the deadline weirded me out so I stopped seeing her for good." Talk Tip 2: Pick the Right Setting The timing and atmosphere can be a major factor in how your guy responds. I am very happy (and he said that he is happy when he is with me) and like him the more I get to know him.So if I can talk about this with dudes, anyone can. Like I said, this might be a slightly awkward convo – there might be no getting around that. Would you rather be lame and sit around waiting to hear what he thinks or would you rather take the initiative and find out where his head is on your own? Here’s what to do: first of all, this conversation should happen in person, not through text messages, Facebook chats or even on the phone.Second of all, you should be relatively calm when you bring it up. I thought I’d help things along or feel better by asking, “So what is the deal, I mean, are we seeing other people, or…” It was a moment of weakness. The whole tenuous, if promising, thing collapsed on itself a short while later. My Break-Up 911 online workshop is going to gently get you back on your feet. And while I can’t purport to read your mind, I’ll assume you’re craving what most humans do: significance and security. And after a few months you really do want to get serious, and you want a committed relationship, then of course you owe it to yourself and him to discuss it. When you do feel the urge to have a meta-conversation, tell him (or her) instead about how much fun you have with that person, how much they rock, how attracted you are to them–and welcome those comments from him.Does he want to know you’re sort of weaning off this other guy? As soon as she tries to get him to submit to certain rules or titles, I warned her she’ll scare him away, and he’s already far away.We've come up with a plan for making the commitment conversation a lot easier on both of you — and it's actually . Then consider whether your romantic hopes are compatible with your other lifestyle goals. Is he comfortable hanging out with you and his friends together?"They want their guy to answer the question 'Where is this going? "You might be busy working on your career or you've planned on traveling before settling into a job, which would make it tricky to sustain a steady, solid union," says Aggie Jordan, author of Once you've checked in with yourself, gauge your guy's love state. Those are all good indications that he won't balk at The Talk.